“I gained my identity, but she lost the man she married and had to find an identity she didn’t look for.” “The history between us haunts from time to time, because, yes, for 40 years, I lied. I lied ...

For him, the grief surrounding his dad didn't come from death; it came from watching the parent he once recognized change into someone he doesn't understand, and didn't ask for. His dad didn't just ...