Adults are often a big part of the problem when kids fight. These common adult responses make fighting worse and what you’re doing or not doing may be contributing. We wish we had understood this earlier with our oldest children. With them we learned that their conflict had a lot more to do with how we helped them navigate conflict and the skills we guided them to develop than we realized. As teachers and parents of 9 and now parenting coaches, we can say with confidence now that changing how ki